dominance and submission

A conversation with a friend today got me thinking. A dangerous thing i KNOW.
Why do some of us love those rolls? I personally believe that it is not so much the sexual aspect of it
but the trust part of it. To surrender you must FIRST fully TRUST. Your everything is in the hands of another person. And as women our minds must be engaged before our bodies can become involved to the point of allowing ourselves to surrender. I can not speak on a mans point of view but i do know that playing the roll of a dominate is a power rush. To have someone trust you to the point of allowing themselves to submit fully to your desires is intense. Being able to switch between rolls and having a willing partner is truly the spice of life.

I do not know if any of us are truly a full Dom or a full Sub. I think we are both sides of that coin in different aspects of our lives. But you have to know yourself first. And then find honesty and trust. Once you do then you can find that partner and the two of you can explore all of the playful possibilities of life. And that is a great gift indeed.



  1. dievca said,

    October 9, 2014 at 5:46 pm

    I think everyone has an aspect of Dom or sub — but, putting yourself into the certain roles can be very uncomfortable for some (similar to the Kinsey scale of sexuality for hetero/homo). It just depends on your partner, yourself, the trust and what you want. XO

  2. November 13, 2014 at 3:18 pm

    I think that, to a large extent, what the vanilla world says about equality of partnerships is a canard. There is always one person who is more dominant and the other more submissive, and failure to acknowledge this and to engage with it healthily causes more vanilla break-ups than is commonly realised. In the lifestyle, we recognise this inequality and agree on who-stands-where from the outset.

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